A Spanking A Day...Keeps The Chronic Pain Away?

Disclaimer: I have consented to impact play/spanking withing my dynamic and this is in no way abusive. If this is a trigger for you, please do not read any further.

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"No pain, no gain!"

How many times have you heard this slogan? How many times are we told that in order to achieve something worthwhile, you have to be prepared to endure discomfort ...or even pain?

Now try telling this to someone that endures pain every single day.

Chances are you'll get smacked in the face. And you'll probably deserve it!

I am one of these people. I live with chronic pain that can be so severe that it literally takes my breath away and leaves me curled up on the bathroom floor, sobbing.

I am one of these people. And if you are reading this, then maybe you are too.

I have been very open about my chronic illnesses and how there is not a day that goes by where I am not in some degree of pain. I have tried every possible treatment and therapy: from anti-inflammatory pills to strong opiates; from acupuncture to physical exercise; from vitamins to cannabis. I have tried everything.

And yet, the pain remains. No, it does more than remain.

It festers.

And grows.

And makes you its slave.

One day last year, my Endometriosis pain was so intense that I felt like Freddie Krueger had donned his famous glove for one last performance: shredding my guts to pieces. I couldn't eat. I could barely breathe. There were monsters inside my body, clawing to be free, regardless of the pain they caused me.

I wanted to die.

At his wits end, Daddy did the only thing left we hadn't tried:

He belted me.

Hard.

And I screamed and fought and cried as each welt decorated my flesh. It was visceral and soul-shattering and the initial pain was almost too much to endure...until it blossomed into the sweetest of releases, thanks to a super surge of endorphins...

and then something strange happened...

the pain in my womb ceased. Freddie Krueger dropped his glove, leaving only echoes of a pain once so unbearable, yet now sated and dormant.

I was able to not only breathe, but move and stand and walk!

A few days later, my Fibromyalgia was being a particular nasty bastard and decided to give me the worst fatigue and leg pain....over the table I went, and Daddy got to work: that day he left a flurry of scarlet marks on my arse as my pain and fatigue left the building, leaving me able to put clothes on and actually leave the house to take a friend's dog for a quick walk.

And we were, again, astounded at the results.

But WAIT, THUMPER! You started your writing by saying that if you tell a chronically ill person, ""no pain, no gain,"" you're going to get smacked in the mouth! And here you are telling me that for you, PAIN DOES HAVE A GAIN?

But WAIT, Thumper! Why, if you live in a near-constant state of pain, would you actively seek out EVEN MORE PAIN?

You see, I believe there are TWO FACTORS at play here:

1. I always liken this to having the worst headache you can imagine. Then you stub one of your toes....(and we all know what that pain is like!!). Chances are, your headache lessens significantly, possibly goes away altogether. Why? I believe your brain is only capable of processing and letting you feel one big pain at a time.

- When you apply this to spanking and chronic pain, the same thing happens. I can have the worst womb pain ever and get the shit flogged out of my backside and legs, only to have my womb pain be reduced significantly. Two days ago, I was writhing on the sofa in pain and Daddy put me over his knee and spanked me. Then I got up and we went for lunch. It can change my pain receptors that much!

2. It creates something YOU have CONTROL over. Let's face it. Chronic pain is fucking cruel and sadistic. It doesn't respect boundaries or safe words. It's one goal is to fuck you up completely. It takes away everything from you, but especially your control. And that's the worst part.

- Being able to ask for a spanking or other impact play GIVES YOU BACK CONTROL. You can decide when to hurt, how much to hurt, and when you've had enough, you can scream your safe word at the top of your lungs and... it all stops. Unlike chronic pain.

So now I happy get spanked at least twice per week, more if my pain requires it. All I need to do is ask and Daddy will happily comply. You see, it gives CONTROL BACK TO HIM TOO - he spent so long feeling helpless and unable to help take my pain away... and now he can: all he needs is his hands, or a belt, or a paddle or a flogger...

Because when pain is your default setting, spanking helps you to control the volume and make it a little more bearable."